What ever is most important to you your identity revolves around.
You life is a creation of the Values that you hold as important to you. That which you hold at the highest level of your values, everything you do will naturally evolve towards meeting this value. I say naturally because it is the easiest thing to do, you need no one reminding you to do it and you don't even need to motivate yourself for it. it is so clearly what you want to do, that is just happens. Whatever inspires you will be clearest in your vision, that which is not is important is filtered out of the way. If you value ford mustangs you will see them everywhere and everything that could be possibly linked to it you will also recognise, the same colour, the word 'must', the sounds of a loud engine. All of which create and reinforce the love of a particular thing. The implications of this are huge.
You can train your brain to be aware of whatever you want, purely by what you focus on. We could go into the whole 'secret' of life side of this debate, but really my point is this, as we are constantly developing and reinforcing things in our brain, these things have to do with who you are as a person. For instance, are you someone that struggles to not say 'bless you' when someone sneezes. It has been so ground into people that they must do it. Their brain says, how dare you not say bless you, what are you a horrible person for not saying it. I think it is hilarious. A good friend of mine always says, "Wow you look hot" after someone sneezes. They struggle with the whole bless you concept. But once again what we program into our brain our brain will create.
For a long time there was the message that was conveyed in "the secret" and a lot of people bagged the shit out of this for it being a little bit ridiculous. And i think at times the message got a little lost among some people. Some people perceived the message to be , what you focus on (tangible objects) you will naturally bring into your world. Now fundamentally i see how that makes sense, but the greater message was not about what you do or have in your life, but more so what you can 'be' in your life. If you train your brain to 'be' a certain person, you will naturally have the bi-products of that. So many people focus on the have and doing aspect of life. I must have this to be successful or i must do this to be this type of person. Thinking that success comes in the order of Have, Do, Be. Instead of Be, Do, Have, when you focus and constantly think about the person you wish to be than the haves and the do's come quite easily, because they are the by products of a brain that is trained to deliver a life that matches your belief about your being. You can not seek to be a certain person, through having and doing something to reach a way of 'being'. You must focus on the aspects of self that deal with your values. These are linked to you who you are as a person.
So why do i write all this now, because the type of brain that you create for yourself right here and now is so important. What you focus on now creates the brain of the future, what you focus on and strengthen inside the brain will allow your brain to naturally be able to achieve anything at a later point. If as a young person we allow people to constantly focus on a negative life of drugs alcohol and parties than their minds will be trained for that.
I have noticed an incredible transformation in my own mind over the last 10 months. Believing myself to not be the most academic of people I held the belief that studying would be hard, and it was, I failed the first 2 exams I took (whoops), thank god for resists. There were 2 reasons behind this, one my brain was not use to that type of processing and retention, I had been out of university for 6 years, plus I believed I was shit. For me I could not just convince myself and believe that I was academically capable. It took me at least 5 months to get the synapses in my brain to start firing properly and thus now believing that I can become a doctor is not so hard to imagine. To rid myself of this belief is what I am working towards as I still have reoccurring thoughts about my inability. But this is fading also. yay.
My friend Mark always says "When you were learning to walk and you fell over the first time, did you think to yourself, shit this whole walking thing is not for me, i think i'll crawl around for life" no you got and up and kept at it. plus i doubt your were swearing at that age. But somewhere along the way we convinced ourselves that if we don't pick it up straight away than we were are not capable of ever learning to do it. My mum always said 'anything one human being can do, another can do'. Our bodies and minds are all made of the same things, the only difference is the thoughts that make up the mind. Stop giving up, stick at things longer all the way through life and constantly seek new thoughts new activities and refine the person you are BEcoming.
So the number one thing i took from the talk, ws be grateful for the life you have, none of it has been in the way of achieving what you seek, it is all on the way. Every night write what you are grateful for and maybe not everything makes us smile in the moment but hopefully later on we can be grateful for it.
These were some great quotes from John.
Step on the shoulders of giants not in their shadows.
Fear- an assumption of something that you are about to experience through your senses in your future
Resentment- an assumption of an experience in your past through your senses.
Whatever you do not empower in your life will overpower you at a later point.
Dreams are in our heart- Gratitude is the gateway to accessing them it is the emotion that creates balance in the mind.
Pain is a private reception of hurt.
Pain and pleasure- you need both to grow, without an up and down you can't grow to a higher level.
It is not that we know so much, it is that we know so much that isn't so.
Do not be a victim of your history but a master of your destiny.
Immediate Gratification conquers the unfullfilment of their highest value. Which means, that which you seek as immediate gratification is not meeting your highest values merely those that fall below it.
Sleep is a by product of an unfulfilled life.
You are an inherent leader in the area that is most congruent with your highest value.