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For every person alive there is a love that is unique and different. A creation of unknown that beads into one Swells from within, fuelled from everything, inspired by only you Untamed by lust and lost in desire. Nature’s building blocks are fused with the energy of love. Every physical and mental construct is embedded with love, Thus your life cannot exist without it. You and love are the same thing.
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The boss that kept on giving.
We all have those opportunities in life to really explore parts of who we are. Sometimes we are so unaware that we posses a certain ability it takes an extreme situation to unleash a dormant aspect. For me it was a boss that i struggled with. For a long time i was overly frustrated by the person I became as a result of the relationship we had. I became a person that compromised who he is to avoid further pain in my life. I literally changed who i was in their presence to adapt to an overwhelming personality. I chose not to speak up when i thought something was wrong, irrelevant of if it were wrong i did not stay true to how i would handle situations. I responded with fear, doubt and an overall negativity towards everyone involved. I placed blame on the boss, just like anyone would do. But not what i would usually do, i know it takes two to tango and i was on one end. There is no need to go into the dynamics of the relationship, cause if this applies to you than just imagine your boss and it will all make sense. Now the only reason I do tell this story is there no way I could make the next point without having made you aware of the fact that the choice in how I responded was something that I chose to do and have actually done. Cause otherwise if I was reading this i would of said yeah right that sounds like bullshit, not accomplishable, way to airy fairy. So let me sum up the situation, it was bad, the pain that i felt, the stress it caused and the person I became as a result on the influence they had on my life was overwhelming. It came to the point where my health and well being were affected and i hate to admit that. That someone could have that much influence over me, and that i would allow it for the length of time that i did, was probably something that needed to happen for me to learn the most from the experience. and have the lesson stick for life, so what did i do? Well I realised that my first thought was how do I get her to be nicer or a better version of herself. And as noble as that was it was stupid, for to presume that the problem rested with her was ignorant, the problem was in my reaction. No matter the person she is I still have a choice over how I react. how I feel in relation to her, That is something you are always in control of, no one can take that way. Victor Frankle, a prison camp survivor from WW2 wrote about this in his book, Man's Search for Meaning, an incredible look at how in the harshest of treatments that could be inflicted on one person from another, people either stayed compassionate and true to themselves or they turned on themselves and their surroundings. He noted that only how you feel inside is the one thing that can not be taken away from you. You have the capacity to control that. I chose that who I would be in response to the onslaught of personal attacks was a person of love who realised that who my boss was, was not her true self, in fact for her to be a negative influence in my life she would have to have some pretty serious stuff going on in hers. For one extreme personality trait to exist it must be created by another extreme. If someone inflicts pain on another it is usually that pain has or is being inflicted on them in another aspect of their world. The child who is beaten grows up to beat others or they grow up to be dominated by their spouse, or even abused. Both outcomes created from an extreme. And so if the relationship with my boss was an extreme that came into my world, is it creating another extreme within me? It was. At first it was negative, a truly harmful experience to my soul. In which I initially felt harm and anger towards my boss. So i needed to interpret the experience differently, I needed to see this as the greatest opportunity I had faced to be love in the face of fear, to be kind to jealousy and most of all compassionate to anger that had arisen from a soul that was itself struggling. To be love i needed to realise that who I am is not influenced by another, it is my choice. This combined with the thought that if we are all connected in some way on this planet than what I was putting my boss i was putting on myself. If I was being anger to them than I was being anger to me. Hopefully that made sense. I am grateful for that experience, for if you are okay with today you can regret yesterday. Everything is for a reason. Amo Just before returning to school I was lucky enough to have a certain piece of the puzzle just fall into place. The puzzle was how do i deal with the ever growing feeling that there is so much going on that i am not sure if i will get through it all. The idea of, what if i do not pass this class or what if this business does not work out or i cant afford this or that. Will i loose money or time or will my plan have to change.
All these things were weighing on my mind, and have been for the last year, it seems that once you decide to take a step in a different direction in life there are so many conditional aspects, well if i do this then this will need to happen first and it turns into a big juggling conundrum of part faith that the universe will get me through and another part made up of a hell of a lot of hard work. Well all this created a mindset inside of me that said "shit" i don't know if i can pull this off, it was fear that things were not possible. In result to this i created an idea of reaching an end point in which i would be free of obligation or worry because all of the hurdles would be over. We call it a holiday. "if i can just hold out till the holidays then i can have a break" is what i would say. And then the holidays come round and low and behold there is still a feeling of more things to worry about. More things i need to take care of, tax, work, webpage, every other things that there was not enough time for in school. This was that moment when it dawned on me that there will always be pressure in life, there will always be tasks need doing, friends you need to call, something you have to wait for so that you can move forward with an idea. Given this knowledge that there will always be something creating a stress "on the mind". I realised that the pressure i felt it was not from outside stressors, it was my perception of those events that created stress. I was literally creating the stress in my head. Instantly i was able to feel great about having so many things going on in my life. My "mind" decided that it would not see it as a stress but in actual fact a life that it had created for itself. A life that it had actually asked for. Now i know many people would say "well daaahhhhhhh of course you mind is creating the stress," it is not all these other things you are doing that is creating the stress, it is you. Just like the brain decides if it is feeling pain or not, it decides if it is feeling stress. There may or may not actually be a stimulus that causes the pain, it might actually just be the brain creating the idea of pain. I am not sure if that analogy makes sense for those who did not realise that your brain is not just the receiver of pain but also the creator of physical pain if it believes it should be experiencing pain. Very miraculous the way our brain works. It does it all for a reason, including the stress. Stress is a necessary part of life, if their is no stress created in a system it can not respond to stimuli. Personally I had created stress as a learned behaviour to respond to the environment it had created, What is the problem with that you may ask. Well i was responding out of fear, fear was creating the stress, fear of not achieving, fear of failure, fear of not being loved, fear of the idea that i was not what i had perceived myself to be capable of. Driven by fear i have come along way, it has served me very well, but ultimately you can see that it has also created doubt uncertainty, and worry. I am at a turning point right now where i wish to create stress in my world so that i can respond to my environment and not be aloof to the world. I want to create the stress from a place of opportunity, opportunity to show the true potential of what i can achieve, opportunity to express the love for everyone, opportunity to learn, grow and evolve as a person. A stress that is born in desire and eagerness for more. Can you see how we need to change the perception of stress as not always being bad, but as serving us for a reason. Stress is not bad, it is the result of our own creation, it serves to balance a worry, a desire, a fear, or love for someone or something that we may be experiencing. So in the end i became quite motivated to not be fearful of all that needed to be done, but i began to trust that if and when it was needed it would happen. Still part trust in the universe and part hard work. I can not believe i would ever refer to my self as a hard worker. Wow things have really changed. such a joy this life is. -amo- Ideas Continuously come to me, but what warrants the honour of being posted. I have no idea, so i will slowly do my best to tick of the ideas as i write them down.
To lie, to deceive or tell a partial truth, what is its purpose? Usually, to make yourself or a situation seem favourable in your own eyes. The end result, which is the other persons perception, is not something you can control. You can influence yes, but they still may not see the story you are telling as desirable. A few months ago I had the pleasure of listening to Liz Anderson-Peacock talk about an experience which encapsulated her thoughts on lying. Someone had asked her to lie for them in her role as a chiropractor. They had asked her to tell a dis-truth, something that did not happen so that they may gain from the situation. Her response was that she would not lie about this. Because if she lied about one thing, that person would forever question what else she would lie about. It made a hell of a lot of sense. Or, what if you chose to keep something from someone and they then found out at a later date, that you had chosen not to tell them. Lets use the best example possible; Someone was unfaithful in a romantic relationship, they chose not to tell you thinking that it would bring more pain and suffering to you and the relationship, but you ended up finding out. You can understand and respect their decision, but would you not then question what else they may have chosen to keep from you. And what about a friendship, do you trust the sincerity of your friendship less when you have found out you were lied to? So why would you ever do it to another. For some reason people think that correcting a truth is not possible. The awkwardness would be too much, "I would not know what to say". Start with this, "Hey (name of friend or loved one), i told a lie and i want to correct the situation cause i value our friendship/relationship too much" Bammm.. tell them what happened. I think the first line is the hardest. If you can not do it face to face, I have found driving in the car is the best place for it, just the 2 of you staring straight ahead. The conversation is of course limited to the duration of the drive. So be smart when you bring it up. No matter how awkward the situation I think it is worth telling the truth. When it comes to the pain it may cause another if you were to tell them the truth, most people say if you can hold that information to yourself and tell no one and it does not affect you or the relationship than it is best to hang on to your secret. That is a personal thing for you to decide i guess. I am not sure i could. I don't like holding energy that is not useful in my body. Honesty is considered the most desirable attribute of leaders, and it is the number one thing I look for in all relationships. I feel as though this blog is long, but it is hard to just finish without quickly covering gossiping. I'll lkeep it simple by saying if you want to never be bitched about or gossiped in a negative way these simple steps may help you out a lot. 1. Tell your story only, if someone else told you their story, it does not mean you can then repeat it, for it is not your story to tell. 2. Speak highly of everyone, and lowly of no one. 3. Your relationship with one person is different from everyone else, if your best friend does not like an acquaintance of yours, it does not mean that you have to dislike them. Surprising how many people struggle with that one. Everyone gets along differently with everyone. ya? 4. And the greatest ever quote to live relationships by, "No bad will intended, all good will assumed" hope you have enjoyed another blog. Amo "A recipe for living"
per week for an excellent meal of love and life add the following, - One hour of artistic expression. - 20 hugs a week - At least one meaningful embrace (kiss, cuddle, and some) - Goooooooooddd food, something fresh every day - An interaction with nature every weekend, swimming in water, playing in the garden. - Touch yourself, everywhere - Moisturize - Tell someone how you feel - Do something for someone else every day. - Some Stretching - One thing you have never done and for desert Music that makes you quietly smile |
AuthorJames Evans and Jenna Watson are always updating their opinions and will often change their minds. Archives
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