I am in love with the world. Most people say such things when they are in love with one person. I wonder if it is ever different, is anyone in love with the world when they are not in love. I think there must be. Maybe those people who value possessing more materialistic things fall in love with the world more. Maybe when they have accomplished something or been given a prize.
At the heart of this love I am referring to happiness. Our ability to be happy seems to be so often governed by the presence or absence of something meaningful in our lives. And thus the meaning we put on something can either create or destroy happiness.
I would like to think that my happiness is generated from the inside. That external influences are not required for me to be constantly happy. But i wonder where the percentage of influence lies. Are there more experiences that cause us to be happy or is it our perception of them that allows us to feel good. If the power is in the perception than surely if we rearrange our perspective on an event, it is possible that it would bring us happiness over grief, frustration or confusion.
What is happiness the end result of? Is it self realising that its needs are met? Is the self saying, "Hey you are tickling all the right spots?" or is it self realising that in some way it sees the value of this experience in its life?
Happiness to me is acceptance of the external and internal environment that we have created. At any moment we can choose happiness if we have accepted the current experience. Now whenever you make a huge statement like that most people want to know if it applies to the big events that are so extreme that there is no way you could feel happiness. And my thought would be yes, you are right, you are not meant to feel happiness all the time. Why would you even want to choose it, you are meant to feel sad. There is of course experiences in life that bring grief and sadness, to turn around and say just change your perception of the experience and feel good about it would be rude and disrespectful.
For instance, there is often no meaning that anyone can reach with the loss of a loved one. To place meaning on such a thing, would to think that there death would revolve around you. And most people agree that it would be foolish to presume such a thing. But the truth is that the loss does mean something to you. It is the meaning that we create in our lives because of this loss in such moments that honour the memory and life of the person lived.
I can not bring this up with out acknowledging the friend who lost their brother recently. Through their courage and ability to deal with such an experience it has made me aware of how life is not all seen through rose coloured glasses. We can not paint the picture that we want to see all the time. Some times our worlds are just not that flash. Maybe a moment of despair is for a reason and other times it has no conceivable reason. Some days we simply feel like crap. Are we wrong for feeling this? Should we be grateful and happy every day. No i don't think so. I think life is valued more when you are aware of every side of the coin. I definitely think that an awareness of the crap is all you need, there is no need to dwell on it. Sometimes it takes time to reach that awareness, that is not dwelling that is processing.
I think most people know that through gratitude for the experiences of life we are capable of experiencing more greatness and joy every day. Cause once again if you are focusing on this and creating a perception that you choose you will ultimately elevate your being and your existence.
But why is life not filled with more happiness and joy. Why does such a concept as the pursuit for happiness exist. I think it comes down to purpose, happiness is the result of a desired outcome. No one actually chooses the goal of happiness, how do you rate it or measure it? You choose something else and the by product is happiness. Your choices are those that serve your purpose, when you work out your purpose, actions that meet those bring more happiness. So stay on purpose, become clear on what you seek to achieve in this lifetime or the next and don't suffer the perception that something is ever in your way as all things are on your way. Everything is leading you forward to conceive a greater purpose every day.